Fear of Abandonment
This is a huge issue. It affects so many of us – kids and adults alike.
I’ve known so many who are affected in every area of their lives because they felt abandoned by those who were suppose to care for them.
It affects their future relationships with:
- parents & grandparents
- peers & friends
- spouses & children
- co-workers/business partners/employees
“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” ~Frederick Douglass
Please. Please. Please. Put your kids first and always be there for them.
- Be available – in the good times and in bad.
- Meet their needs
- Give them structure and clear expectations.
- Hold them accountable.
- Follow through – be consistent.
- Consider what is best for them in every decision.
- Be involved in every area of their lives.
- If they tell you to back off or leave them alone – don’t. They need you even if they don’t know it.
- If there is a problem, care enough about them to address it.
- Keep the light on.
Kids, especially teenagers sometimes will think you don’t care about them if you discipline them.
They may even hate you in the moment. But if you don’t correct them they will assume you don’t care. You can’t win for losin’. Go figure.
Kids want you to go the extra mile to make sure they are secure and cared for.
Sometimes that is inconvenient. Yep. Parenting isn’t always easy or fun. You have to do things you don’t like, they don’t like and others don’t like. You will be criticized, misjudged and disliked. Oh, well. Your kids come before your popularity or comfort.
We had people tell us we were too soft on our kids and others tell us we were too hard. You can’t please everyone!
They are worth your effort. They are worth your time.
A SIDE NOTE: I have kids who love me. I have kids who don’t. Regardless of which category they fit in – I still love them all. I want them in my life and the door will always be open to ALL of them. It was hard to teach some of my adopted kids to trust us because of their past experiences, but we worked at it every day and still do. Sometimes only God can heal the hurt. We wait and watch.
The ones who love me are amazing and I cherish EVERY moment I’m with them. I always hope the ones who don’t will pick up the phone or text me and let me know they are coming by for a visit – it has happened!
I’ve seen God do amazing things.
I pray every day that He will do a tremendous work in our family. We did our part. Now we wait and watch for Him to work.
If you have abandonment issues in your family or personally – ask God for healing. He can and will. I have been so impressed with my kids who have allowed God to work in their lives and bring them to the other side. It takes time and effort to sort it all out. They are amazing.
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