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Just a Reminder from a Friend…

“To get something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.”

“When God takes something from your grasp, He’s not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better.”

“The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not keep you.”

Thanks Cathy!

Dealing with a Tight Budget

This article by Jill Cooper was copied with permission from: www.LivingonADime.com.

What are the top lessons you would give a family or even a single person who is dealing with a tight budget?

  • Stop spending.
  • Don’t think that using a credit card or getting a loan will make it better. Going into more debt will not help you get out of debt.
  • Get rid of your pride. You may have to shop at garage sales for a while. You may not be able to have your kids in sports and you might have to say no to friends when they want you to go to an expensive restaurant. Pride is a sin. God didn’t kick the angels out of heaven because they murdered someone or were doing drugs, drinking or smoking but for pride.
  • Stop worrying about what others think or whether or not you are making a good impression. We constantly tell our kids not to give in to peer pressure but we do it all the time. We Christians can be especially bad about worrying what other Christians are going to think of us. That is the same as when your kids worrying about their peers.
  • Cut back on everything. You can save 50% on your grocery bill before you even go to the grocery store by simply exercising good portion control with your food. It is better for you, too. Go from a 30 minute shower to a 5 minute shower. Not only will you save on utilities, but your skin will thank you.
  • This should be number one: tithe. Right now when others are panicking about their 401k’s or about what their stocks are doing, I don’t have a worry in the world. I have invested my money in Someone who has promised that no matter what happens in the world, including with finances, I and my children will be fed and taken care of. He has demonstrated His faithfulness over and over. To me, my tithe is the best savings a person can have.
  • The real test of a person’s character occurs during hard times. Keep your integrity, be responsible and be trustworthy and honorable whether your situation is your fault or not, whether it is fair or unfair. Proverbs 22:1 says “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.”I once received a notice of foreclosure on my house. I had 2 weeks to come up with $35,000 and I couldn’t sell my house. I didn’t have $35. I wasn’t sure what to do. If I lost my house, my kids and I would literally be out on the streets. After a few moments of panic, I prayed and God told me what to do. One of the first things I did was to call the banker and tell him I wanted to start up our old business, which I knew nothing about and had no money for supplies, no customers and a limited market.

    What loan officer do you think would say, “That’s great– forget the foreclosure and you don’t even need to make a payment until your business is up and running well”? None that I know of, but that is exactly what he said. We had banked there for a while and, because of that, he knew I always paid my bills (the foreclosure was because of debts my husband got into when we were separated). The loan officer said “Jill, I know you and trust you to pay so I’m not worried.”

    Everything God tells us to do is for a good reason and it is usually for our good. He wants us to have a good name because He knows at times when things hang in the balance, a person’s good name can tip the scale in the right direction.

 

  • Don’t decide you are going to change your ways and then expect God to suddenly produce a miracle and make all of your debt go away. God loves you, but He is also a just God. He expects you to pull your weight and if you spent 5 years carelessly spending, you may have to work extra long and hard for 5 years to get yourself out of your mess.It would be like telling my teenage son to clean his room. After a month goes by, he is out of clean clothes, can’t find anything and has been grounded by me for failing to do what I told him to do. He tells me how sorry he is, insists he’ll never do it again and repents all over the place, but he still has to clean his room, which is such a big mess it is going to take twice as much work.

    I forgive, but he is perfectly capable of cleaning it himself, so he has to clean up his own mess.

Here’s something to think about:

In Matthew 6:24, the Bible says No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.” We always think that this verse relates to having lots or money, that it only concerns the wealthy or those seeking wealth, but it can pertain to the poor and those in debt, too.

Be careful. What controls your waking thoughts? God or money? What do you seek after more? God or a way to pay your debts? What do you talk about more with your family? God or how the bills are piling up “in these hard economic times“? Do you spend all of your money eating out, playing a game of golf, buying your kids sports uniforms and dance lessons and having your nails done or do you first tithe?

I have found most people give their money to whoever or whatever has their heart and soul. I don’t say these things to condemn you but to get you thinking, “Do I have things mixed up? Can I do something differently? Do I need to change something, even if it is something small?”

We guard our families in so many areas. Don’t let Satan sneak in the back door with this and destroy you, your family and your testimony.

Eva and Rick’s Incredible Journey

Wow. Check out this story about a single mom and her adopted son with FASD. It will give you a good look at some of the things our family has lived through  – a journey not many can identify with or even try to understand.

“He wore out his welcome in a few months wherever he went and had survived at least 13 homes by the time he came to live with me. One of his “homes” was the psychiatric ward of a county hospital where he stayed for three months when he was two. Immediately preceding this, he visited his birth mom and returned in a catatonic state. He wouldn’t stop rocking and staring into space. His foster parents couldn’t break his trance and after a few hours took him to the emergency room. When he was discharged, they refused to take him back.

All of the placements ended because of alleged abuse in the foster home or because Rick was no longer wanted. Because of this I expected him to have an attachment disorder but when he was 5 a pediatric neurologist diagnosed him as having possible Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and prescribed Ritalin. My medical dictionary and other research didn’t tell me much; just that it was a cause of mental retardation. Rick didn’t look like the photos and had none of the physical characteristics. I dismissed it. I was in denial. I figured a secure, stable, loving home would work wonders for my Ricky.”

To read the rest of this article go to: http://ninezeroproject.blogspot.com/2010/05/eva-and-ricks-incredible-journey.html

Abraham Lincoln

“Towering genius distains a beaten path. It seeks regions hitherto unexplored.”

~ Abraham Lincoln, January 27, 1838 Lyceum Address

They’re Going to Take Me Away!

Remember when you ran away and
I got on my knees and begged you
Not to leave because I’d go berserk? Well,
You left me anyhow and then the
Days got worse and worse and now you
See I’ve gone completely out of my mind. And,

They’re coming to take me away, ha-haaa.
They’re coming to take me away, ho ho, he he, ha ha,
To the funny farm, where life is beautiful all the time
And I’ll be happy to see those nice young
Men in their clean white coats and
They’re coming to take me away, ha-haaa!

You thought it was a joke and so you
Laughed, you laughed! When I had said that
Losing you would make me flip my lid – right?
You know you laughed, I heard you laugh,
You laughed, you laughed and laughed, and then you
Left, but now you know I’m utterly mad. And,

They’re coming to take me away, ha-haaa.
They’re coming to take me away, ho ho, he he , ha ha,
To the happy home with trees and flowers and chirping birds
And basket weavers who sit and smile
And twiddle their thumbs and toes
And they’re coming to take me away, ha-haaa!

I cooked your food, I cleaned your house
And this is how you pay me back
For all my kind, unselfish loving deeds? Huh?
Well, you just wait–they’ll find you yet
And when they do they’ll put you in the
ASPCA you mangy mutt! And,

They’re coming to take me away, ha-haaa.
They’re coming to take me away, ho ho, he he, ha ha,
To the funny farm, where life is beautiful all the time
And I’ll be happy to see those nice young
Men in their clean white coats and
They’re coming to take me away, ha-haaa!

To the happy home with trees and flowers and chirping birds
And basket weavers who sit and smile
And twiddle their thumbs and toes
And they’re coming to take me away, ha-haaa!

To the funny farm, where life is beautiful all the time
And I’ll be happy to see those nice young
Men in their clean white coats and
They’re coming to take me away!

by Napoleon XIV
(real name: Jerry Samuels)

It comes from the heart…

Right now I’m sitting in one of my favorite stores – Barnes and Noble. Since my family bought me a new battery for my laptop, I can sit in the comfy chairs and launch into my techno world without looking for a nearby plug. See, things can bring happiness. (All the while understanding only a loving God can bring us joy). And I am completely happy and content uploading precious pictures of my Isaac and Hudson while watching those around me.

A couple of minutes ago a young father tooled into the store with a shopping cart and little baby in his arms and sat down right across from me. I have to admit my first thought was, “I bet he’s babysitting.” Well, honestly, he can’t be babysitting, it’s got to be his baby because he had love woven into each action. He sat down, put his baby sideways on his lap and pulled out a bottle. He plopped it into the baby’s mouth. Of course my cynical mind thought, “Yeah, plug it in so you can have a break.” But once again this young father surprised me.

He lovingly looked down at the baby and wiped a dribble off his chin with his thumb after reaching for his own bottle – a slurpee drink. Right at that moment the baby looked up at him and took the bottle out of his mouth. The father took the bottle and set his down on the table and held the bottle for his little boy. In a moment the father connected with his child and forgot all about his own wants. Then the most precious thing happened. The little baby, not over 6 months old, reached for his daddy’s hand as if to say, “Oh Daddy, I love it when you hold me!”

A second or two later the father pulled the little one’s blanket out of the shopping cart and laid it alongside the baby’s face and side in a gentle, protective manner. All this happened and just a couple of minutes, but it was enough to see that this father wasn’t babysitting. He was building a life. Our children can tell when we KNOW them. They can tell when we LOVE them. They can tell when our needs are not important when we see they have a NEED. They can see just like I saw. It’s not anything you can script. It has to come from the heart and is obvious to all around. It’s nothing that can be counterfeited. Love is obvious and REAL. Love makes all the DIFFERENCE.

Great Moms

“Good moms let their kids lick the beaters, Great moms turn off the mixer first.” ~anonymous

Chicago Tribune – FASD Misunderstood by Courts

Click here to read an article in the Chicago Tribune about a young man diagnosed with FASD that is presently in the court system. It will give you an idea of what deficits those with FASD struggle with – these issues are life long because of brain damage in utero caused by the birth mother drinking alcohol during her pregnancy.

World wide interest has been sparked by the story of the little boy who was sent back to Russia by his adoptive parents. His special needs that were too much for the family to handle.  Many FASD children are sent here from Russia to American adoptive families, often without the families being aware of the extent of their special needs.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery

“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Plan B by Pete Wilson

Plan B, by Pete Wilson, was a very practical book on how to weather trials with the confidence that God is with us and that He has a great work to do in our lives through it all. He discusses the disappointment and fear that come with the dissolution of our dreams and points us toward faith in God as we struggle with the “Plan B” in our lives. Wilson encourages the reader to focus on what God is doing to change us to the person He wants us to be rather than on getting from point A to point B in our own plan for our life.

Not only is this book full of practical Biblical advice, but I found the stories he told and advice he gave to be written in a very humorous way, lending credence to his words – he is personally acquainted with life’s twists and turns. This is not a typical book that you would expect from a pastor of a large church. He writes in common language that is very readable and enjoyable, so much so that I read this book in one sitting. I highly recommend this book.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

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