Give Yourself a Break
When my kids were still living at home, I often would fall asleep at night stressing over what I had not accomplished that day – it was very self-defeating. “Why did my kids act like terrors today? Why did my son bite my daughter? How is it that I never seem to get the house clean? I’m home all day. I need to do better…”
It is very common to stress over what we didn’t get accomplished that day.
But what about the things we DID accomplish? Were there any wins? Did the kids learn anything? Were they happy and healthy? If they were sick, or got hurt did we help them?
I was fortunate enough to have a DH that would come home and greet me without expectations.
I’d say, “I have NOTHING planned for dinner tonight, so sorry.” or, “The living room is strewn with toys, sorry, watch your step.” You know his response?
He’d come back with, “Are the kids still alive?”
And of course I would reply, “Yes.”
“Then you did great today,” was always his answer.
We moms are hard enough on ourselves.
We don’t need others defining us or telling us what we should or should not do or accomplish in a day’s time.
I distinctly remember one day looking at the clock at 2:00 in the afternoon feeling guilty that I was still in my fuzzy pink bathrobe, crying because I couldn’t seem to get anything done that day because the kids ran me ragged that day.
Uh, uh. Nope. Never again.
Since then I’ve learned that my best is good enough – good enough for my family and good enough for God. God only expects us to be faithful. If we are then we’re good. End of story.
Let’s talk about goals – parenting goals.
While I encourage you not to stress, it’s always good to have goals to shoot for. I’m very goal oriented and tend to analyze EVERYTHING in my life, from how I present myself to what I’ve accomplished in my life. I analyze my relationships and hobbies – how could I do better? How is what I’m doing affecting others?
So I’ve made up a goal sheet for you – a PDF with some spots that you can enter your goals to keep track of your progress and to think through what it is you hope for, dream of and shoot for.
It’s good to have goals.
I’ve made a Parenting Goals Chart for you.
Just click on the picture and I will send you an 8×10 JPG that you can either print in your office with an edge to edge printer or get printed as an 8×10 photo and then cut to the 8×8 square goal chart. Suggestion… Get it printed, cut it and frame it in an 8×8 frame with glass you can write on with a dry erase marker – that way you can write/meet your goal/erase/write again.
If you make progress then you are successful.
Be realistic, but shoot for the stars. We all need goals.
A friend told me of an app that I downloaded on my phone as an encouragement – to keep track of my wins every day. Its’ called WinStreak. Put some things in your life today that encourage you and keep you on track.
Ask yourself, “Are the kids growing, learning and loved?” If you say, “Yes,” Then you are on the right track.
Find friends who are encouragers. Find a good church. Find out who you are and enjoy being who God made you to be.
Now go be amazing – because you are.
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